5 things you should ask yourself before having a baby
Before you make that life-altering choice of becoming a parent, it’s important to first ask yourself if you’re really ready. This is especially important to ask yourself if you’re being pressured by your partner. Being a parent is rewarding but it does come with a lot of challenges.
Is your partner on board?
If you are hesitating because you are not sure what the answer is, then it’s probably not a good idea to have a baby. This is because you need someone who is responsible and mature enough to help raise your baby and share in the responsibilities. Speak to your partner and see how strong your commitment is to each other. Studies have shown that the stress of new parenthood can push couples to a breaking point. If you believe that having a baby can strengthen your relationship choma, then you definitely should not have a baby.
Are you fine with cutting back on your social life?
If you suffer from FOMO (fear of missing out), then it’ll get worse once your friends go out to a party on a Saturday night while you have to stay in, taking care of your baby. Once you have a baby, your priorities will shift and you will be taking care of another human being apart from yourself. Depending on how tight some of the bonds you have with your friends, you may lose some entirely or have little time to strengthen those friendships. You may need to form friendships with other mums, which requires a lot of effort, and with the baby needing a lot of your attention, you may need to be patient in sustaining these new friendships.
Do you have enough money to raise your child?
Yes, money doesn’t raise a child, but it does help a lot when it comes to taking good care of your baby. With food, medication, nappies and clothes (to name a few) being expensive, you need to make sure that you can properly supply your baby with these basic necessities. And it’s not only that, there’s also crèche, school fees and other things like transport and school uniform when they get older. Raising a child involves more than buying your baby cute mini clothes. As fun as it is having a baby dress in cute clothes, you also need to make sure you plan for everything else after the baby passes the infancy stage. Babies grow up into children and teenagers and in most cases, they are a permanent fixture in your life, meaning they will always need something from you, sometimes even when they turn into adults.
Do you value your sleep?
If you enjoy taking naps or sleeping for a good 8 hours a night, you may have to start saying “bye bye” to that kind of lifestyle if you plan on having a baby. Babies have no concept of time and it takes a while for the parents and baby to get into a routine, so expect a lot of sleepless nights choma.
What’s the real reason of you wanting a baby?
Consider why you want to have a child and if you are ready emotionally and financially to have child? Is it to mend a broken relationships? Is it to stop feeling lonely? If you think having a baby, a drastic measure, to mend your relationship is the solution, then maybe what you should be asking yourself is if this relationship is healthy to begin with. In the same way you think having a baby will keep you company, it will not choma. You may end up resenting your baby instead. Make sure your reasons for having a baby are to benefit you and the baby.
If you do believe that you are ready for a baby choma, it’s important to ask yourself these questions; where will the baby be raised?” “How will the baby be supported?” (This includes emotional, financial, to name a few), “How will the parent responsibilities be split?” and “How will I discipline the child?” Whatever your reasons for wanting to have the baby make sure that the decision comes from a positive space and although they say you can never be ready for a child, you at least need to be somewhat prepared for what to expect choma.
However, if you do fall pregnant after having sex choma, it’s not the end of the world. There are support structures that will assist in raising your child. Yes choma, being a teen mum can be hard, and if the father of the child or his family don’t take equal responsibility then that can be add to the pile, but there are organizations that you can get in touch with that can give you that extra support.
Choma, there’s no rush to have a baby, especially if you’re still getting to learn more about this thing called life. When you are mature, are in a healthy relationship and secure financially and emotionally, then you may be in a better position to think about having a baby. For now, have fun and do you! What’s the rush?
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