5 bad habits to leave behind in 2016
Bad habits are most often categorised as self-destructive behaviours, which can best be defined as the voluntary destruction of something by itself. More often than not, these behaviours stem from an inability to handle or express emotions in a healthy, effective manner and as a result, impact negatively on mental wellbeing as well as physical health. It’s important to know that self-destructive behaviour is a choice, so here are a few of those habits you should say no to in the new year.
When you’re in a bit of a mess, whether it’s emotionally, at work, school, or in your day-to-day life, it’s easy to confuse what being a strong person means. The idea of needing help is often associated with weakness because of the fact that when you recognise you need it, you’re acknowledging that you can’t do everything on your own. Needing help is okay, and you should allow your friends, family or even a psychologist to offer a hand, and take it when they do. This life thing isn’t easy choma, so learn to let people into your life, the good and the bad parts.
Failing to take action falls on the more passive side of self-destructive habits, meaning even though you know something is bad, you deliberately avoid trying to make the situation better for yourself by attempting to fix it. This attitude of giving up is very detrimental to your productivity and self-esteem, because you might find yourself in a trap of believing that a situation can never get better. Remembering to tell yourself that there’s always a solution is the best first step you can take to be free from a self-defeating mindset.
Neglecting your health
Ignoring any mental or physical health issues you do, or think you may have is a very risky habit to keep. Something that may be easily pushed aside at first can develop into a very severe problem that can get in the way of living a healthy normal life. There’s no shame in making sure you’re well informed about the state of your health, choma. Seeing a psychologist (or psychiatrist if you need), going for routine HIV and STI testing, and regular check-ups with your GP is giving yourself the power to take your wellbeing into your own hands.
Sometimes you may feel that you don’t deserve the love that comes from family, friends or a lover and as a result, will try to sabotage the entire relationship. This self-destructive habit includes a wide range of behaviours and attitudes, such as emotional manipulation, violence, possessiveness, jealousy and so much more. Relationship sabotage goes hand in hand with “social suicide”, which is when you purposefully detach yourself from the people around you. Learn to believe that you are worthy of good, healthy love, despite your flaws.
Over (and under-) eating, over spending, as well as substance abuse, are amongst the most common, physical forms of self-destructive behaviour. This is often a cry out for help but in the wrong places, for instance, where you should be finding comfort in a friend or family, you might find an escape through alcohol, food or excess shopping even when you can’t afford to.
Habits are choices we choose to make every day, the longer we make the same decision, the harder it may be to make a different one. The New Year is always a good time to make a healthy change and stick to it, choma.
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