Types of relationships to leave in 2018
Choma it’s a new year, with new goals and a new focus. This means that you can’t drag the old things that bring you down or don’t add value to your life along with you into 2018 - including relationships. Since this year is a year of health - in life and in love - here’s one more thing to remind yourself in 2018: You deserve better. With that in mind, here are the types of relationships you should leave behind.
An abusive relationship
Okay, this is number one on the list Choma because absolutely no one deserves to be abused and mistreated, physically or emotionally. An abusive relationship is extremely unhealthy and dangerous.
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Friendships where you give more than you get
Toxic friendships can be really draining, especially if you’re always giving more than your friend or if you get the feeling that your friend is using you. You deserve healthy friendships where you feel supported and feel like your friends are making an effort and always have your back.
Here’s more on toxic friendships:
Side dish relationships
Whether you are the ‘side dish’ or have a ‘side dish’, these relationships get complicated really fast Choma. First, knowing that someone is also committed to someone else can make you feel like you’re not really in a relationship - eventually you’ll want more. Second, the more partners someone has, the higher their chances (and your chances) of contracting Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs), including HIV. It’s a reality you can’t ignore Choma.
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One-sided love relationships
This means that you’re putting more effort into the relationship than your partner is. In a healthy relationship, you feel like your partner values you, your time and your effort. If it feels one-sided then it’s not giving you as much value as it should.
Here are articles to read to help you recognise if your partner is not valuing you:
This one is for those who are in love with people who don’t show the same interest. This simply means that you’re trying too hard to convince your crush to like you but your crush doesn't share those feelings. We all go through this at some point or another Choma and it’s not the end of the world. Remember that if someone doesn't like you back it simply means that they’re not the right fit for you. The right person will appreciate who you are and will like you for you - without you needing to convince them. Don’t chase after anyone Choma because you deserve better.
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Like I said Choma, you deserve better. Toxic relationships will only add negativity to your life and mess with your self-esteem. Make a decision to do what’s best for YOU this year and get rid of relationships that don’t bring you happiness.
Remember, if you or a friend need advice or help, you can contact me here on Ask Choma, send me a Facebook Message, a Twitter DM, or a WhatsApp Message (071 172 3657)
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