Myths about sexual assault
Sexual assault is a common crime that happens all over the world, but especially to women. Sexual assault includes rape, molestation, harassment or any other kind of unwanted sexual behaviour done by one person to another. In order for us to help put an end to sexual assault we need to create awareness about it. There are still so many people who are uninformed about sexual assault and sometimes say things that are not true that actually make the problem worse. Here are things that we should definitely never be thinking when it comes to sexual assault.
People cause others to sexually assault them
This is a common myth that’s dangerous to spread. When a person, especially a women, is sexually assaulted many people ask questions like “What was she wearing?”, “Where was she going?”, or “What was she doing?”. Yet none of those questions matter. If we try to find reasons why someone was sexually assaulted, we never put the responsibility on the perpetrator - the person who actually committed the act and is the only one to blame for the assault.
Men are not sexually assaulted
Men are also victims of sexual assault. Men can be victims of sexual assault by men or by women. When a man is sexually assaulted, no matter by who, it doesn’t make it any less painful or traumatic for him than when it happens to a woman. No one deserves to be sexually violated Choma and victims of sexual assault all deserve to be supported and believed.
You’re more likely to be sexually assaulted by a stranger
The truth is, sexual assault victims are more likely to know their abuser personally. People are usually assaulted by people they know, and sometimes people they trust. People often assume that you’ll be assaulted at night by someone who is just lurking around. But you can be sexually assaulted at any time of the day, sometimes in your own home or another familiar place, and often by someone you know.
If you don’t fight and scream when you’re being sexually assaulted then it wasn’t sexual assault
You don’t know how you’ll react when someone makes you feel uncomfortable or causes you to feel scared. A lot of people freeze when they are attacked, and this is a normal reaction for people who become very afraid in a situation like this.
Sexual assault can’t happen in a relationship
It can Choma, and it does. No one in a relationship owes their partner any sexual favours. In fact, being in a relationship doesn’t mean that you owe you partner any sex at all. You should only do it if, and when, you want to. A partner forcing you to have sex in a relationship is rape. A partner forcing you to perform sexual acts that you don’t want to is sexual assault. You can report it and you can get counselling to deal with it. Don’t ever feel like what you went through is normal right.
You can owe someone sex
People sometimes think they are entitled to have sex with others because they have done or bought something for them. This is not true. No matter how much someone spends on you, how nice they are to you - you really don’t owe them sex. Them forcing you to ‘pay’ them through sex is abuse and you can report them.
Choma, if you experience sexual assaultand need support, you can contact:
Rape Crisis 24-hour helpline on 021 447 9762
POWA (People Opposing Women Abuse) on 0116424345/6
LifeLine on 0800 055 555 (Toll Free)
The more you know about sexual assault Choma, the more you know how report it, how to support those who are victims of it and how to stand up to perpetrators. When we stop accepting false statements about victims of sexual assault then we help stop sexual assault.
Remember, if you or a friend need someone to talk to, you can speak to me for advice or help here on , send me a Facebook Message, a Twitter DM, or a WhatsApp Message (071 172 3657).
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