“Coming Out? Here’s some advice”

If you’ve discovered that your sexuality is LGBTQIA+, then you may be at the point where you’d like to come out to your family or a close friend. If part of being your best self is being your TRUE self then “coming out” is a positive step for you.

What does it mean to “come out”?

In this sense, “coming out” means embracing your true sexuality, if your sexuality is anything other than heterosexual or “straight”. We live in a world where many people assume that everyone is supposed to be heterosexual but in actual fact, there are many different types of sexualities. But because so many people think that everyone is born heterosexual, it makes it hard for someone who has a different sexuality to truly be who they are so they end up hiding it.

Thankfully, more and more people are beginning to realise that people can be born with different sexualities.

It’s okay that you are who you are

So the first step to ‘coming out’ usually starts with recognizing and learning about your own sexuality. This comes with recognising that you’re different but at the same time not really. This simply means that while you might realise that you’re gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender for example, you’re still a person like everyone else. The only thing different about you is your sexuality.

Coming out to others can be scary and because of what some people say about anyone who is not heterosexual, it can make you feel shameful about who you are. Just remember that you have nothing to be ashamed of. Some people are born straight, some people are born gay, some people are born transgendered or any other sexuality and that’s just how it is. Your sexuality is one part of many parts that make you who you are.

You can get support

Although it’s still difficult for a lot of people to openly be anything other than heterosexual (because so many people don’t understand), times are changing. There are laws in place that protect people against being abused and discriminated against for their sexuality. There is also a growing number of support groups for those who belong to the LGBTQIA+ community. Thankfully you can find more and more of these groups with data and your cellphone. So if you feel like you won’t get support from those around you, do a bit of research online and get in touch with a support group nearest to you. Speaking to people who understand exactly what you’re going through will help you through your own journey of being your true self.

Do it in your own time

At the end of the day, when and how you decide to tell anyone about your sexuality is entirely up to you. All you have to remember is that no matter what your sexuality is, you’re still awesome! The only thing wrong about coming out is the fact that there are still a few people out there who won’t understand it.

Even if you don’t come out to others just yet, celebrate coming out to yourself. Be in love with every part of yourself and make sure that you rock your life by being YOU, shamelessly and wholeheartedly.

And remember, if you ever need to talk, I’m here to listen. Click on Ask Choma.