Safe Sex in Same Sex Relationships

Having safe sex is a must, regardless of your gender or sexual orientation. You might find a lot of information out there about safe sex for heterosexual people (or straight people) but not so much about safe sex for the LGBTQIA (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer/Questioning, Intersex, Asexual) community. However, there is information out there Choma. Here are a few tips for having safe sex if you’re in a same-sex relationship.

Oral sex

Although oral sex is seen as ‘low risk’ sex – because the risk for sexually transmitted infections (STIs) is lower than penetrative sex – it is still a risk Choma. You can read about the risks of oral sex here.

For oral sex, always use a male condom on a penis and a dental dam on the vulva (outside of the vagina) or when performing mouth-to-anus oral. If you can’t find a dental damn, you can make one out of a male condom. Here’s how.

Sex Toys

Sex toys can also put you at risk of contracting STIs so you need to be careful when using them. Sex toys increase your risk of contracting STIs because STIs are spread through bodily fluids and blood. If one person has a STI and their blood or bodily fluids is spread to the other person through the sex toy then that person could contract a STI. For this reason it’s important to make sure that whatever sex toys you use, that they are from a trusted source and that they are cleaned:

  • whenever they are used on different parts of the body (vagina, anus or mouth) – don’t use them on one body part after you’ve used them on another without cleaning them first.
  • when using them from one person to another – don’t use them on yourself and then use it on your partner without cleaning it first.

Getting tested

If you’re a woman who has sex with women, you might not see the need to get tested because female-to-female sex is generally seen as being a lower risk for contracting STIs. However, you can still contract STIs, including HIV, from having sex with a woman who has sex with women. That’s because STIs are passed on through bodily fluids and blood. If one or both of you are on your period, you might be at risk. If you touch yourself and then your partner, then you might be at risk. If your partner has sex with both men and women (unless you know for sure that they use a condom every single time) then you might be at risk as well. So make sure that you get tested Choma.

For male-to-male sex, the risk is even higher because anal sex increases your chances of contracting HIV if you don’t use protection. Make sure that you get tested regularly Choma.

There are websites that are dedicated to giving information to the LGBTQIA community such as Health4Women, which offers health and lifestyle advice to “women who love women” and Health4men, which offers health and lifestyle advice to “men who have sex with men”. So make sure to visit these websites if you need more advice or information.

Remember, you can also contact me if you need advice or help. You can contact me here on Ask Choma, send me a Facebook Message, a Twitter DM, or a WhatsApp Message (071 172 3657)