Sex during pregnancy Whats ok whatsnot

A developing foetus is not only protected by the amniotic fluid, but also by the strong muscles of the uterus itself. This means that sex is perfectly safe during pregnancy unless your healthcare provider has advised otherwise. Although sex during pregnancy can feel quite different from how it felt before, remember that this is perfectly normal. Here’s more.

Using protection

Being pregnant doesn’t mean it’s safe to have unprotected sex. It’s still important to use condoms to help prevent you from being infected with sexually transmitted infections (STIs), which you can get if your partner is infected. Having an infection during pregnancy can cause serious health problems for you and your baby.

Sexual positions

As long as you’re comfortable, most sexual positions are ok during pregnancy. This may mean that you’ll have to experiment with some new positions as you accommodate your growing baby bump. By the second trimester, make sure you’re not engaging in positions that put weight on your stomach. While sex is safe for most couples in pregnancy, it may not be all that easy. It’s always advisable to check with your healthcare provider.

When to avoid sex

Your healthcare provider might recommend avoiding sex if:

You have unexplained vaginal bleeding.

You’re leaking amniotic fluid.

Your cervix begins to open prematurely (cervical incompetence).

Your placenta partly or completely covers your cervical opening (placenta previa).

You have a history of preterm labour or premature birth.

Be sure to fully understand what your healthcare provider means when you’re advised to avoid sex. Asking questions is completely normal.

When to worry

See your healthcare provider if you have unusual symptoms during or after sex, such as:



Fluid or discharge

Significant discomfort


No matter which trimester you’re in, rest assured that sex is a healthy part of pregnancy. If your healthcare provider gives the green light, you’re free to do what feels comfortable for you.

Remember, if you or a friend need advice or help, you can contact me here on Ask Choma, send a Facebook message or a Twitter DM, or a WhatsApp Message (071 172 3657).