Youth Day Reminds us why we’re here!

Do you know how youth-day came to be?

The 16th of June is celebrated in recognition of the contribution made by young people, in the struggle against apartheid.

On June 16 1976, school children marched in a protest for freedom, known to us now as the Soweto uprising. Over 500 youth were killed that day, for standing up for justice, equality, the right to quality education and against the ruling government’s plans to impose the Afrikaans language as a medium of instruction in schools for black students.

The famous picture, taken by Sam Nzima, showed Zolile Hector Peterson (who died in the protest at the early age of 12) carried by Mbuyisa Makhubo, alongside Hector’s sister Antoinette Petersen. This is only one of many who lost their lives during the protest, with photographic evidence.

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June 1976 Hector Petersen. Photograph by Sam Nzima/South Photographs.

Post these events, the government of South Africa, in 1995, officially declared June 16th a national public holiday.

So, why can’t we celebrate it like a normal holiday?

Every public holiday has its significance. In realizing what the struggle in 1976 meant, we should be honored to live within the freedom and rights that we are enjoying today. The enjoyment of this freedom comes with great responsibility, so as to not forget the legacy left by the youth of that time.

Making daily responsible choices and taking action against acts that violate other people’s rights is one way to honor June month. Substance use and abuse and celebrating in a risky fashion, is one way to destroy what this legacy is about as it tarnishes the meaning behind this meaning day.

Practice the rights with responsibilities, so that current and future generations may enjoy even better fruits of this labor!

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Freedom Day 2024

This day celebrates the first democratic elections held in South Africa on the 27th April 1994. This was the first national elections held after apartheid, where anyone could vote regardless of race.

More importantly, Freedom Day is the day where we remember the many sacrifices made by freedom fighters to ensure our democracy and freedom…and “with freedom comes great responsibility”.

This year marks the 150 years anniversary of our struggle icon and human rights campaigner, Charlotte Maxeke. Charlotte and many other women fought against oppression at a time where people of colour and women were oppressed and ‘fighting the system’ was a violation in itself.

All citizens of South are now freely allowed to vote for the government the prefer, under a democratic constitution.

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What are my rights and responsibilities as a young person living in South Africa?

Children have the right to shelter, health care and to be fed. All children and adults have the right to information and education. All people have a right to freedom of expression, opinion, who they associate with including who they choose to marry regardless of race, the freedom to choose religion and the freedom of movement (in the past people of colour had restricted movement and had to produce an identity document (ID) wherever they went).

Everyone has a right to life, equality and human dignity which includes the right to be free from torture, which was practiced before democracy as well as the right to a safe environment and the right to work.

“With great power comes great responsibility” said the great scholar, Voltaire. Our version as young people in South Africa – with great rights comes great responsibility.

As youth, we should always remember what it took for us to earn the freedom we have now. Violating other people’s dignity (Example, bullying), not allowing others to voice their opinions; ridiculing other people’s religions; gender or race are ways of ruining our hard-earned democracy.

Freedom also doesn’t mean that we get careless about our health or livelihood, it is our responsibility to ensure that we take up health care services, treat everyone equally, take opportunities to learn and be educated while making sure we’re continuing to treasure the democracy fought on our behalf. As a country, we’re still falling short on fully delivering on some of the services that speak to this democracy but it is the responsibility of each person to ensure that we all live freely in our country.

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Human Rights Day

Human Rights DayObserved on March 21st each year, is a momentous occasion to celebrate and advocate for the fundamental rights and freedoms of all individuals. This day has historical importance, particularly in South Africa, where the Sharpeville Massacre occurred in 1960, prompting the world to recognize the importance of protecting human rights.

 

Key Messages:

1. Universal Declaration of Human Rights:

Human Rights Day commemorates the Universal Declaration of Human Rights, a milestone document that outlines the inherent rights and dignity of every person.

2. Equality and Inclusion:

It emphasizes the principles of equality and inclusivity, reinforcing the idea that every individual deserves fair treatment, regardless of race, gender, religion, or other characteristics.

3. Social Justice:

The day serves as a call to action for social justice, urging individuals and communities to stand up against discrimination, inequality, and injustice.

4. Diversity is Strength:

Celebrate the rich diversity of humanity, recognizing that our differences contribute to the strength and vibrancy of our global community.

5. Advocacy and Education:

Human Rights Day encourages advocacy and education on human rights issues. It’s an opportunity to raise awareness, promote understanding, and inspire positive change.

6. Local and Global Impact:

While rooted in local history, Human Rights Day has a global impact, fostering solidarity and collaboration to address human rights challenges worldwide.

 

Actions:

1. Education and Awareness:

Organize events, seminars, or workshops to educate communities about their human rights and promote awareness of global human rights issues.

2. Advocacy Campaigns:

Engage in advocacy campaigns to address specific human rights concerns, raising your voice against discrimination and injustice.

3. Community Engagement:

Collaborate with local organizations, schools, and community groups to promote inclusivity, tolerance, and understanding.

4. Social Media Campaigns:

Utilize social media platforms to share information, stories, and campaigns related to human rights, encouraging a wider audience to join the conversation.

5. Volunteerism:

Participate in or organize volunteer activities that contribute to the well-being and rights of marginalized or vulnerable groups.

 

Remember Choma, Human Rights Day is not just a date on the calendar; it’s a reminder of our shared responsibility to build a world where the rights of all individuals are honoured and protected. Let’s stand together for justice, equality, and human dignity. 🌍✨

 

#HumanRightsDay #StandUpForJustice

 

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Embracing Your Shine: A Guide To Self-Love And Self-Care

It’s easy to get caught up in the chaos and forget about the most important person in your world – you! So, let’s take a moment to dive into the art of self-love and self-care. Because, trust me, you deserve it, Choma.

  1. Celebrate Your Uniqueness:

Let’s start by acknowledging how wonderfully unique you are. Embrace your quirks, flaws, and everything that makes you, well, you. Your individuality is your superpower.

  1. Mirror Self-Talks:

Stand in front of the mirror, look into your eyes, and say something positive about yourself. It might feel a bit awkward at first, but it’s a simple act that can do wonders for your self-esteem.

  1. Treat Yourself Like Your Best Friend:

Imagine your best friend going through a tough time. What would you say to them? Now, say those words of kindness and encouragement to yourself. You are your own best friend, after all.

  1. Unplug and Recharge:

In a world that’s always connected, it’s crucial to unplug. Take a break from the digital noise, breathe, and recharge. Your mind, body, and soul will thank you.

  1. Dance Like Nobody’s Watching:

Turn up the volume on your favourite feel-good song and dance like nobody’s watching. Movement is not just for the body; it’s for the soul. So, shake off the stress and let the rhythm of self-love guide you.

  1. Nourish Your Body:

Treat your body like the temple it is. Fuel it with nutritious foods, stay hydrated, and savour the flavours. Remember, a happy body contributes to a happy mind.

  1. Learn to Say No:

It’s okay to say no. Boundaries are not selfish; they are an act of self-love. Saying no to things that drain your energy allows you to say yes to things that uplift your spirit.

  1. Journal Your Journey:

Grab a notebook and pour your thoughts onto the pages. Journaling can be a therapeutic way to understand your emotions, set goals, and track your journey towards self-love.

  1. Breathe Deeply:

Amid the chaos, take a moment to breathe. Deep, intentional breaths can centre your mind and bring you back to the present moment. You’ve got this.

  1. Surround Yourself with Positivity:

Your environment plays a significant role in your well-being. Surround yourself with positivity – uplifting quotes, supportive friends, or the calming embrace of nature.

Remember Choma, the journey to self-love is ongoing, and each step you take is a victory. Be patient with yourself, embrace the imperfections, and know that you deserve all the love and care in the world. Here’s to the beautiful journey that is you! 🌟💖

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Boosting Confidence And Happiness: The Magic Of Positive Self-Talk

Positive self-talk can help you get through low points and regain confidence. Being supportive of yourself brings a more open and productive perspective to a situation. Your self-talk and thoughts can shape your reality. Here are some effects of negative and positive self-talk:

Negative thinking

Negative self-talk is when you focus on preconceived ideas that you’re not good enough or always a failure or can’t do anything right, this is called negative self-talk. Some common forms of negative self-talk include:

  • You magnify the negative aspects of a situation and filter out all the positive ones. For example, you had a great day at work. You completed your tasks ahead of time and were complimented for doing a speedy and thorough job. That evening, you focus only on your plan to do even more tasks and forget about the compliments you received.
  • When something bad occurs, you automatically blame yourself. For example, you hear that an evening out with friends is cancelled, and you assume that the change in plans is because no one wants to be around you.
  • You automatically anticipate the worst without facts that the worst will happen. The drive-through coffee shop gets your order wrong, and then you think the rest of your day will be a disaster.
  • You think of all the things you think you should do and blame yourself for not doing them.
  • Keeping impossible standards and trying to be more perfect sets yourself up for failure.

The Power of Positive Thinking

A positive thinker looks on the bright side of challenges. Having a positive attitude means you have an optimistic outlook. An optimistic attitude means you have hope. You believe things will work out well and ultimately you will succeed.

This is how you can replace pessimistic thoughts with positive thoughts:

  • Change the way you think. Instead of saying, “I don’t want to do that, I’ve never done it before,” say, “I’ll try it because I may learn something new.”
  • Instead of thinking, “I’m never going to get better at this,” say, “I’ll try again until I figure it out.
  • Write down five things you’re grateful for each day. This will help you recognize and feel the positive vibes in your life.
  • Don’t compare yourself to others. It only fills your mind with negative thoughts and self-doubt. Reaffirm how awesome you are, and that your awesomeness has nothing to do with anyone else.
  • Post notes around your house where you’ll see them. You can post “‘I am good at this and that”, or “I am special and unique because of”, or “I am proud of myself for this and that”.

When your state of mind is generally optimistic, you’re better able to handle everyday life stresses more constructively.

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Do You Really Need A Break From The Socials?

Taking a digital detox is important and is like giving your mind and body a refreshing break from the constant influx of information and screen time that characterizes our digital age. Take a digital detox. Taking a break from digital devices and online activities—can offer various benefits for your overall well-being. Here are some key advantages:

  1. Reduced Stress:

    Continuous exposure to digital devices, notifications, and information overload can contribute to stress. A digital detox allows you to step back, disconnect, and reduce the mental clutter.

  2. Improved Mental Health:

    Taking a break from social media and online interactions can positively impact mental health by reducing comparison, cyberbullying, and exposure to negative content. Reducing comparison in the social media world means taking steps to minimize the tendency to compare oneself to others based on what is presented on social media platforms.

  1. Enhanced Sleep Quality:

    The blue light emitted by screens can interfere with sleep patterns. A digital detox, especially before bedtime, can improve sleep quality and help regulate your circadian rhythm.

  1. Increased Productivity:

    Distractions from constant notifications and digital noise can hinder productivity. A break allows you to focus on tasks without interruptions, potentially leading to more efficient and effective work. 

  1. Better Physical Health:

    Reducing screen time creates opportunities for physical activities. Whether it’s exercising, going for a walk, or engaging in hobbies, a digital detox can contribute to improved physical health. 

  1. Stronger Relationships:

    Quality face-to-face interactions are crucial for building and maintaining strong relationships. Disconnecting from screens allows you to be present and engaged with the people around you. 

  1. Improved Concentration and Focus:

Constant multitasking and digital distractions can lead to decreased attention span. A digital detox provides a mental reset, improving concentration and focus. 

  1. Greater Self-Awareness:

    Taking a step back from digital platforms allows for self-reflection and self-awareness. You can better understand your thoughts, feelings, and priorities without external influences.

  1. Encourages Mindfulness:

    A digital detox promotes mindfulness by encouraging you to be present in the moment, appreciate your surroundings, and engage in activities without constant digital interruptions. 

  1. Break from Information Overload:

    The digital world is filled with an overwhelming amount of information. A detox allows you to step away from the constant influx of data, giving your mind a break.

Choma, remember a digital detox is like hitting the refresh button for your mind and soul. It’s your time to unplug, unwind, and rediscover the magic of life without a screen stealing the show. 🌟✨

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Off To Varsity? Here’s How To Ease The Transition.

Starting varsity is an exciting step in one’s life, but it can definitely be stressful and scary at the same time. Here are some tips on how to make the most out of your first year at varsity.

Keep these tips in mind once you start classes, but more importantly, don’t forget to have fun along the way.

Believe in yourself 

Don’t ever think you’re not good enough to be where you are. The fact that you are where you are shows how incredible you are. You picked your course for a reason, most likely because it’s something you have a strong interest in, and any difficulties will be worth it in the end.

Get ready to make new friends

It can be overwhelming when meeting many new people, but remember that countless students will start university at the same time as you. The great thing is, you’re bound to share interests with other people so put yourself out there so you can find them, and they can find you.

Be organised

Being organised is not just important for your mental health but also your academic performance. Have a calendar that you regularly update with your assignments and make a daily to-do list to be more productive. It’s also helpful to write down your tasks and plans for the day or week.

Ask for help

Don’t be afraid to speak up and ask questions. Lecturers are there to guide you and facilitate your learning experience. If there is something you don’t understand raise your hand and ask for clarification.

Participate in extramural activities

It’s essential to take good care of your mental, and physical well-being by participating in sports activities or social clubs. Take advantage of the extra-curricular activities offered to you. This is also an easy way to make new friends.

Be safe

You may experience feelings of freedom once you’re in varsity like you can do just about anything without any consequences but unfortunately, this is not the case. You will always need to take precautions. Use a condom, don’t walk the streets at night alone and avoid substance abuse.

Varsity can truly be the best time of your life, so don’t forget to have fun, make memories and invest in your future.

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Life After Matric 101: I’m Done With High School, Now What?

Have you just completed matric and want to figure out what to do?  Whether you decide to study, travel or work, you can make the most of your experience by being prepared. Let’s explore some of your post-matric options:

Apply for University

You can use your Matric Certificate to study at university. This depends on the Matric Pass Levels you achieved. If you have a Bachelor’s Degree or Diploma Pass, you have a better chance of being accepted into university. However, your acceptance still depends on whether you meet other requirements that the university may require.

If you obtained a National Higher certificate and a National Senior Certificate pass, you could study at a college. Your chances of being accepted at a college are better than at a university.

Upskill Yourself

 Many institutions offer you the opportunity to upskill yourself while gaining highly desirable skills like an FET college. There are short courses available that are up to 6 months to a year that you can take.

Build Experience

If you would like to gain work experience, here are some of the options to consider:

  • Finding a part-time job: Look for entry-level jobs, you can visit websites such as Careers24, Indeed and Pnet for opportunities.
  • Becoming a nanny: If you love kids, offer to babysit or help clean around the house for a family member or neighbour and earn some money. This experience can open up opportunities for au pairing.
  • Pet walking: If you love animals, you can ask your neighbours if they need help walking or looking after their pets.
  • Getting a retail Sales job: Some stores in malls offer part-time or even weekend work. Visit your local mall and see what opportunities are available.

Your options after matric are endless. Remember to give it your all and you can have a fulfilling career journey.

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I Failed Matric. What Now?

Failing matric can be a challenging experience, but it’s important to remember that it’s not the end of your educational or career journey. Here’s what you can do next:

Stay Calm and Positive:

It’s normal to feel disappointed but, try to stay calm and maintain a positive outlook. Focusing on solutions rather than dwelling on the problem will help you move forward.

Understand Your Results:

Take the time to understand why you didn’t pass. Identify specific subjects or areas where you struggled. This understanding can guide your next steps.

Speak to Your Teachers:

They can provide insights into your results, offer guidance on potential options, and support you in making informed decisions.

Consider a Rewrite:

You might have the option to rewrite specific subjects or the entire matric exam. Check with your school or relevant educational authorities for information on rewrite options and deadlines.

Explore Other Educational Options:

If rewriting the exam is not a viable or preferred option for you, explore alternative educational pathways. Consider vocational training, technical colleges, or adult education programs that can provide different routes to acquiring qualifications.

Research Skill Development Programs:

Look into programs or courses that focus on skill development. Acquiring new skills can enhance your employability and open up alternative career paths.

Reflect on Your Goals:

Take some time to reflect on your long-term goals and aspirations. Consider whether your current setback might lead you to a different path that better aligns with your interests and passions.

Work and Gain Experience:

Consider gaining work experience through learnerships, apprenticeships, or entry-level jobs. Practical experience can be valuable and may guide your future educational and career decisions.

Consider Online Courses:

Explore online courses or distance learning programs that allow you to continue your education while adapting to your own pace and schedule.

Remember that setbacks are a part of life; many successful individuals have faced challenges in their educational journeys. Use this as an opportunity for growth, learning, and discovering alternative paths to lead to a fulfilling future.

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How To Handle Post-Matric Anxiety

Post-matric anxiety is a common experience as people transition to a new phase in life, whether it involves further education, entering the workforce, or taking a gap year. Here are some tips to help handle post-matric anxiety:

  1. Acknowledge Your Feelings:

It’s totally normal to feel anxious about the unknown. Accepting and acknowledging your feelings is the first step towards managing them.

  1. Set Realistic Expectations:

Recognize that it’s okay not to have everything figured out immediately. Life is a journey, and it’s perfectly fine to take some time to explore your options.

  1. Break Down Goals:

Instead of overwhelming yourself with long-term plans, break down your goals into smaller, more manageable steps. Focus on what you can do in the short term.

  1. Explore Options:

Research different paths, whether it’s further education, job opportunities, or taking a gap year. Understanding your options can help alleviate uncertainty.

  1. Talk About It:

Share your concerns with friends, family, or a mentor. Sometimes, talking about your anxieties can provide perspective and support.

Reaching out to others who are going through a similar transition can be reassuring. You don’t have to go through this alone,

  1. Develop Coping Strategies:

Identify healthy coping mechanisms for stress and anxiety, such as exercise, meditation, or creative outlets. Establishing a routine can also provide a sense of stability.

  1. Embrace Change:

Understand that change is a part of life. Embrace the opportunities that come with new experiences, even if they feel challenging at first.

  1. Set Short-Term Goals:

Establish short-term, achievable goals that align with your broader aspirations. Celebrate small victories along the way.

  1. Be Patient with Yourself:

Transition periods can be challenging. Give yourself the grace to learn and adapt, recognizing that personal and professional growth is a gradual process.

Choma, it’s okay not to have all the answers right away. Life unfolds at its own pace, and each person’s journey is unique. Be kind to yourself, stay open to new opportunities, and take things one step at a time.

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